February is here, that month of hearts burning to burnish romantic love relationships. What if February became a month celebrating all types of love? Why not send Valentine’s cards to everyone, not just our sweetie, as we used to do in grade school?
Ernest Dempsey, a.k.a. Karim Khan, our Man from Pakistan, sent me the following Valentine’s Day message to post to our friends around the world.
This February Janet Grace Riehl, author of Sightlines: A Poet’s Diary, touched on an important point regarding love and Valentine’s Day. Janet suggested that if we would extend the concept of love beyond romance to encompass all the good feelings we have for people, then our Valentine’s Day will be more special. The philanthropic appeal at once touched my heart, taking my thoughts to our self-centeredness and its resulting self-confinement characterizing our emotional attachments.
True that romantic love is a defining human characteristic (and more). But often, it has a blinding effect on our human potential to stretch the benevolence of love to all or many around us. In romance, we tend to forget others, many a time even ourselves, as a single person takes the center stage of our emotional being. We think primarily in terms of that person, not realizing that confining our emotional flow to a single channel takes us away from those hundreds of more channels that need this emotional elixir. It is through connecting these many other channels that humanity becomes complete and happy.
For Valentine’s Day, let’s open a window that lead us to open our hearts more fully beyond those closest to us. Speaking from a land where violence and terror haunt our peace each day, I see the love-to-all motto as the path to peace. So it is worth sharing to suggest sending love greetings and cards/gifts on Valentine to all and not our Romantic connections only. To make the day and life happier, let’s widen the concept of love.