“I kept my mouth shut.” (Conversation starter)
"It almost killed me to do so, but I kept my mouth shut...."
Tell us about a situation in which you found you had to just shut up, or you'd be in really big trouble, one way or another, or just a big bore, or unkind.
For John Flinn, it was that no place is ever as good as it used to be...if you got there first...but, what do you say to the folks who got there after you?
"So," I said, trying to keep a neutral tone, "what do you think of Kathmandu?"
"Fantastic!" said one. "What an amazing place!" said another "It's even better than I thought it would be.
It almost killed me to do so, but I kept my mouth shut.
( from San Francisco Chronicle, G3, Sunday, June 10, 2007)
For me, someone came up to me on the retreat to apologize for something that happened here last year. Fortunately, whatever it was, I'd forgotten all about it. She was just doing her best, to the best of her capacity, to follow the teachings on taking responsibility and being kind. My kindness was to let her check me off her apology list.
But, truly, I think there should be a statute of limitations on offering apologies...except for the big stuff...otherwise, the little slings and arrows of life I've previously let go of (and in the tradition of my family I'm a great grudge-holder, so letting go of awkward moments is a big accomplishment for me) just come back to rub, like sand rubbing a tender foot inside new shoes.
But, me? It almost killed me to do so, I just kept my mouth shut and allowed her this moment of her version of kindness. And, moved on to re-forgetting the original incident. Forgiveness is easy. It's the forgetting that's hard.
So, what did you keep your mouth shut about recently?
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